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2021: My Slice of Humble Pie

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2021: My Slice of Humble Pie

I wrote the title of this post and then pondered deeply on the thought of 2021 being my “slice of humble pie”. On the outside looking in, it wasn’t a bad year for me. I bought a brand new house on an island that most people never even heard of. I’m the Cyber Systems Outstanding Noncommissioned Officer of the Year out of all the bases in the Pacific Command. However, along with those great accomplishments I also experienced betrayal, body image issues (weight gain), living without the internet for months, not having my household goods delivered until 22 November, death in the family, and a whole bunch of other things.

This year has reiterated what I’ve already known. You have to take the good with the bad. Life isn’t going to always be sunshine and rainbows all of the time. You can be up one day and down the next. Your clothes can fit perfectly one year and the next year they can make you feel like a whale. Your skin is flawless one day and look like a Crunch bar the next, but those times are when you discover the real you. Do you fold or do you continue to show up for yourself and the people around you?

I am proud to say that I did not fold. I still showed up to work with a great attitude even though I was having the worst acne breakouts of my life, at age 30 by the way. I continued to go to the gym and figure out different ways to accommodate these newfound curves that I have. After my breakup, I was out there meeting new people and not being a bitter woman. I now have this new mantra to love myself at each stage. I may not be as skinny as I used to be, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not worthy. As long as I’m healthy, that’s all that matters. I still got an excellent score on my PT test which was something that the 20-year-old airman didn’t do. My house is finally coming along. I enjoy decorating and making this place feel like home and my personal sanctuary, which is something that I’ve never done before. The vibe in my house is so nice and chill, trust me.

2021 has taught me a lot about myself. Chapter 30 brought out the big guns, but I’m thankful. I’m ready for this next chapter of my life and I’m open to all of the new lessons that it will bring. I doubted myself for a little bit this year, but not anymore. With my new year right around the corner, great things are on the horizon.

  • Dec 17 at my unit Holiday Party in all my thickness!!
  • Back rolls and all! But the booty and boobs were popping too!
  • I had to show up like this. I think that wearing the face mask made my breakouts worse, even though it was all over my face.
  • One of the worse days of my breakouts. Sept 5, 2021
  • One of the days when I felt beautiful because my skin was clearing. November 20, 2020
  • Close up without the filter! Do you see the difference?!
  • I finally put on makeup and went to brunch with a beautiful beat.December 5, 2021
  • I love this outfit and I didn’t get seen in it much this night, so here you.
  • I actually took a man out to eat this night…I was beautiful too.
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Something’s Changed

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Something’s Changed

Hey y’all! So, recently I have been feeling really happy lately. Like something has definitely shifted in my life. I am receiving love and positive attention from every angle. Things are going great at work, I have people in my life that love and appreciate me. Strangers even take the time out to tell me how special I am. So what really changed? What brought about all this positive energy? 

I know what changed. My mindset, my outlook on life. I know it may seem like I have always been this positive person, and that’s true but we all have our own insecurities, and that includes me. Nowadays, I am more secure in myself and my abilities. I don’t stress about how I look, if people will like me, how much money I make, etc. I just know that everything will work out for me in the end. I am vibrating on a frequency of love and happiness because that’s how I truly feel. Since I give that energy out to the world, that is what I am receiving. 

As a woman, I automatically possess this divine power, but being a black woman makes it even more special. Being in Korea has made me realize that. To a lot of people, I am this exotic being. I get so many stares and looks that I don’t even notice it anymore until one of my friends points it out. When you live in your own little world of peace and love, you tend to block all of that out, at least I do. I just want to do my best to continue to live a life that others look up to and to inspire the next generation in my own special way. 

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So, it’s been awhile!!

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So, it’s been awhile!!

Hello everyone!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my blog, and I just wanted to catch you up on some things that have been going on with me. If you follow me on social media, you have seen how busy Korea has been keeping me. This PCS was a blessing that I didn’t know I needed. Since I’ve been here my credit has gone up, I’m more confident, I’ve gotten to know myself better, and overall I am just happy with the woman I’m becoming. My last blog post was about me getting fit, and I did just that. I got the best score on my Air Force Fitness Test that I’ve gotten in my entire Korea. I think not having a car in Korea and working out consistently really helped. I was surprised at myself when I heard my scores.

I’ve also made some new friends, explored Korea a lot, and even won an award at work. Things have been really great here for me these past ten months. Most people would be preparing to leave here around this time, but I still have 14 months left. My first international vacation while being in Korea is going to be to the Philippines. I’m excited to visit, although it was never on my list of places to see, but why not? I may actually start vlogging while I’m there, but we shall see. This was just meant to be a quick post since I haven’t written in a while. I have a lot of new ideas for 2019. I just hope that I can keep up with myself because I’m barely making it now with my jam-packed schedule, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Life is great!

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Accomplishments & Cocktails!

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Accomplishments & Cocktails!

I found my new favorite spot in South Korea! Okay so I know I haven’t been giving you guys that many updates about my time in Korea, but it’s coming, I promise. I finally finished studying for my CompTIA Security + Certification, which I passed! I am now CompTIA Security + certified, and the feeling that I had when I passed that exam was pure joy. I was so excited that I did the Lebron once I walked out of the testing room. I had focused and studied for that test shortly after arriving to Osan, so for about two months. This was my third time testing and I was the only person in my work center that was not certified and that is a certification that is needed for my job, so the pressure was definitely there. Any who, I don’t want to get too deep into that. If you want to learn more about the certification just follow the hyperlink…

Today I also took my E-6 promotion test. I have been in the Air Force for eight years now, and I feel like it is time for me to step into that next level of leadership. E-6 is the rank of Technical Sergeant in the Air Force, and in my opinion, it’s when people really start to take you seriously. This was my fourth time testing for promotion, and I’ve watched some of my peers pass me by in rank. Some people would look at that as a failure on my part, but I don’t. I am proud of all of my peers who joined the Air Force the same time or shortly after me that have already made E-6. I know what type of work has to go into achieving that rank. I was focused on other things these last couple of years, and financially I still made the same amount as them, because I wasn’t solely focused on the Air Force being my only source of income. With that being said, I am happy that I tested for this promotion cycle and I don’t have to worry about it again until the results come out in the summer.

The past weekend I explored Suwon with some of my friends, and enjoyed a nice cocktail in the Songtan Entertainment District (SED) after our fun day. The SED is literally about a five minute walk from my home and it has many different restaurants, cafes, bars, and clubs. It is what makes Osan so much fun. The one really cute cafe called Cafe CF had the nicest atmosphere and the prettiest drinks and decor. I fell in love with it and I am happy that I get to enjoy it for the next 21 months! After we left Cafe CF we went to one of our regular spots and I ordered my favorite blue drink there. I think it is definitely important for you to get out of the house and destress. I felt like I’ve been cooped up for the past two months, but this weekend was really fun and I enjoyed myself getting away from the base. Trust me, there is more to come!

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Here’s a photo of my “Blue Think” from the Think Lounge in the SED. (Photo taken by iPhone 7 Plus)

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Small Circle. 

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Small Circle. 

Remember back in high school when the number of people that knew you and called you friend was a popular thing? Back then the more friends we had the merrier, because it showed that we were more accepted by our peers. Fast forward to almost nine years later for me, my views on that have changed. Even when I was in high school, I knew a lot of people and hang out with different groups, but I didn’t consider everyone my friend. These days the amount of people that I consider friend is even smaller. Just because you know someone, doesn’t make them your friend.

You really have to evaluate the people around you and take inventory. Are the people you call friend supportive of your goals and aspirations? Do they just hang out/talk to you when it’s convenient for them? Do they take an active role in your interests, or do they just cheer from the sidelines? Much like bad relationships, bad friendships can hold you back too.

It is awesome when you find people in your life that you can truly trust and confide in. A friendship is something that we as humans need, sometimes that type of relationship is more important than an intimate relationship. I am thankful for the true friends that I have in my life. We may not talk everyday, but the love is always there. Whenever we do speak it’s like we never missed a beat. That’s what friendship is all about.

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It’s 2018!!!

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It’s 2018!!!

Happy New Year!!!

I am so excited for 2018!! I just think that so many great things are going to happen this year, and I am ready for it. I started writing down my goals for this year weeks ago. I usually like to start my New Year’s Resolution on my birthday. My birthday is so close to New Year’s Day anyway that I can get away with it, and technically that’s really when the new year starts for me. For this new year, I brought it in alone in my apartment. I usually am out partying with friends, but this year I decided to do things differently. The offer was there, but I wasn’t in the mood for partying. I wanted to have an even better head start on my goals for the New Year.

This year I wrote down my goals and split them up into three categories: work goals, professional goals, and personal goals. One may say that work goals and professional goals are the same thing, but for me they’re not. My job has nothing to do with what I want to do for the rest of my life. However, it does allow me to keep my bills paid, and it is paying for me to go to college, so I want to make sure that I excel there too. My professional life is me building my brand. Inspiring people through the “Queen Juliette” lifestyle and continuing to put out great content that not only helps other, but helps me as well. My personal goals are different from both because that’s more of my health and wellness goals.

What are your goals for this year? If you haven’t done it already, write them down. Tell someone else about them so that they will keep you accountable too. We all have the same 24 hours in a day to make our lives whatever we want it to be. We just have to use our time wisely. I am one that struggles with time management, but this year I vow to do better.

Also, make sure that you are setting SMART goals for yourself so you won’t be disappointed. SMART goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. This should be self explanatory, but what it means is to be deliberate about your goals and have a plan. Your goals should be based on your wants and desires, and not what other people want for you. This will stop you from having a lot of heartache. It’s way more easier to focus on something that you’re actually passionate about.

I don’t want to be too long winded, but I hope your 2018 is everything that you imagine and more! I hope that you achieve all of the SMART goals you set for yourself and that you have a prosperous year! Always remember that you’re Be-YOU-tiful and life is meant to be lived abundantly!

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Merry Christmas!

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Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas Everyone!

So far I have been having a BLAST in South Korea. I am surprised that I actually like this place a lot. I arrived in country on December 8, and it feels like I’ve been here longer than that already. I am meeting a lot of great people and my co-workers seem really cool (for the most part).

Today is Christmas here, and it does not seem like it at all. This isn’t the first Christmas I’ve spent away from my family per se, but it is the first Christmas that I have been alone in another country not around any loved ones. It’s kind of weird. I try to act really tough, but it does suck seeing pictures of people with their families at this time of year. I absolutley adore my family and their craziness, and holidays are extra fun with them.

I will say that I have been taking advantage of this area so far. I have done some short trips to Seoul, South Korea. It’s a huge city, similar to NYC, and it is the capital of South Korea. Yesterday I went to the Trick Eye Museum and the Gyeongbokgung Palace. One thing I will say, is that South Koreans love to enjoy themselves. They definitely know how to have a good time. I attached some pics and videos from the Trick Eye Museum. The Love museum was also attached too, but I didn’t get to check that out that much. Enjoy!

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New Chapter.

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New Chapter.

Sooooo, I have been preparing for a big change in my life these past few months. One of my favorite parts of being in the military is being able to live in other countries. The Air Force spoiled me by giving me Ramstein, Germany as my first duty station, and I have been trying to get back overseas ever since.  I got notified in February that I would PCS (Permanent Change of Station) from Hurlburt Field AFB, FL to Osan AFB, South Korea, and I was ecstatic!

I have heard stories and rumors about South Korea since I joined the Air Force in 2010. However, it wasn’t my initial choice for my next duty station. I left Germay in 2013 & I have always wanted to go back, that was my first choice. Luckily for me, Osan is only a year long tour and it is one of those bases that you can choose the base that you would like to go to next. I lucked up and got Ramstein, Germany as my follow on. Both of these tours are unaccompanied, since I have no spouse nor dependents. This will be my first time traveling and living overseas alone, and I’m stoked!

While preparing for this move, I reminisced on all of the things I accomplished while at Hurlburt. I bought my first home there, became a business owner, took many vacations, got divorced, became a landlord… Personally, I did alot and learned alot. I grew up so much in the past four years, and I am ready for the next chapter in my life.

So many people have asked me why I decided to leave for three years, why I decided to go back to Germany, and my question to them is why not? Why wouldn’t I want to take this chance to explore the world, live in Asia and Europe on the military’s dime, and get more stamps in my passport? This is one of the main reasons why I joined the military; to travel and go to school, and that’s exactly what I’m doing.

I’m excited for this next chapter in my life and thrilled to take you on this journey with me! Stay tuned!!

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Inner Peace.

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Inner Peace.

So, for the first time in years I am living by myself (no roommate), and I am single. This has been going on for the past few weeks, and it is something that I have wanted for myself since I decided that I wanted to get a divorce years ago. If you didn’t know, I was married for five years, and obviously it did not work out. My ex husband is a good man, but he just wasn’t the right man for me, and I was not ready to be a wife at the time. I just kept telling myself and him that I just wanted to be alone. I just wanted time to myself to figure out who Juliette is with no one else’s influence or judgment. I feel like when you are actually out on your own, and handling business by yourself & for yourself, you get to know yourself even more. 

Since I have lived by myself, I find that there are good days and bad days. Some days I am so happy that it is just me, and that I can just fully enjoy my own company. Other days I feel lonely, and like I need someone there. I go on social media and see happy couples and wonder why I don’t have that yet. Then I quickly remind myself that this is what I wanted, and when the right person comes along I will know. 

Throughout this whole process, I am getting to know myself better. I do love who I am, and the woman I am becoming. I am at peace knowing my strengths and my weaknesses. I know I have flaws, and I don’t try to hide them. At this point in my life, it’s either you love me how I am, or having nothing at all. I don’t feel the need to conform to anyone’s beliefs. I walk to the beat of my drum set. 

This feeling is a very liberating feeling, especially as a woman. Women are taught from a young age that they must be wifely, or motherly. I am not either at the moment, and I am find with that. I see so many women rushing to be a wife or a mom, and they haven’t enjoyed their own life yet. Once you become a wife and a mother the focus is not on you anymore. I believe that you need that time to just figure out who you really are, so that you may know what you really want. During my first marriage, I was just learning who I was. I was only 19 when I got married, so that was super young to be making that type of commitment in the first place. I was smart enough not to bring a child into that situation. 

I said all of that to say this, I am finding inner peace within myself. I enjoy my own company. I love being the master of my life. I want to be a complete person before I decide to fully commit to someone else, and I hope that he would have the same mindset too. I urge all of you to get to know yourself more. It is a beYOUtiful feeling. 

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Don’t you hate it when….

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Don’t you hate it when people complain about how horrible their life is, and when you show them something that could change their life they do nothing about it?! No? Probably not, unless you do what I do.

I have been apart of an amazing concept for the past three years and it has totally changed my life. I have experienced some things and seen some places that I never would have if it wasn’t for this concept. The best part of it is the amazing people that I am able to meet. I have met some lifelong friends because of this idea. The funny part is that most people want the lifestyle that I have, but they aren’t willing to do what I do to get it. Isn’t that odd? I was taught that if someone has the lifestyle that you want, then all you have to do is mimic what they did to get those results.

Success leaves clues, and sometimes it’s better to look at the people that you know in life and start there. I am no where I want to be, or plan to be in life but I’m on the right track. I am gaining as much information as I can from my mentors by reading and attending seminars. The information that we need to be successful is hardly ever just handed to us, we have to go out and find it for ourselves.

This year I challenge you, and myself, to read more, do more, and be more. There is greatness in all us, we just have to pull it out.