You know what…I’m low-key tired of making post like this. I literally haven’t posted on my blog since February, and that is horrible. In my defense, I have been doing a lot of things that didn’t allow me to post, but nine months is still a bit of a stretch. Lets start from the beginning.
I moved to the island of Guam in February. If you’ve never heard of Guam, it’s a US Territory in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. It’s on the same side of the world as Korea and Japan, but way more remote. Since then, there has been a lot of adjusting. I purchased a new home in April. That process was very stressful, but it’s proving to be well worth it. I love my house. It’s my favorite thing about being here, and I’m thinking of staying here longer because of it.
This year wasn’t the best year for me as far as success and love, I will admit. I did buy a house, but that’s about it. I lost my uncle this year in May and that really hit me hard. I wasn’t expecting that at all. I also, ended a relationship that I was really excited about, so its back to the single life for me. Everything happens for a reason though, so I’m hopeful. This was the first year of my 30s and it has been a whirlwind. I have noticed the new perspective that comes with being 30 though. I do not have time to entertain anything or anyone that isn’t beneficial to me. I am more comfortable with who I am and how I look. Its crazy that this year is almost over already. I will be turning 31 next month, which is wild to me.
I have met some good people since I’ve been here, so that’s a plus. Meeting new people and building those relationships is something that I enjoy doing. You never know how people will impact your life until you give them a chance. The whole “no new friends” never really set well with me. With that being said, bare with me and stay tuned for more adventures of Guam.
Somehow I always find myself doing some type of fitness or diet challenge. I think it’s just in my Capricorn nature at this point. This next challenge that I’m embarking on (starting March 1, 2021) will be my longest challenge thus far. I actually got the idea from one of my friends and decided that I should see if I could challenge myself as well. The name of the challenge is 75hard. You can read about all of the details on 75hard.com. The creator of this program is Andy Frisella, and he created it to be more than a fitness challenge, even though it is fitness related. This challenge is marketed as a “TRANSFORMATIVE MENTAL TOUGHNESS PROGRAM“. After checking out the website for myself and listening to my friend’s journey, I decided that I wanted to do this for myself as well. I am living in a new area and only know a small amount of people here, so this if the perfect time to focus on me and my goals.
The program is 75 days long, which is longer than any of the challenges that I have ever done. I usually do 30 day fitness challenges, even then I still cheat a little on those challenges. This time I plan to follow the entire program and do all required days. My goal for this program is to propel me even further into this next decade of my life. I want to start my 30s off with a bang, and finish it the same way as well. I feel like this program will allow me to do that. The requirements of this program are as followed:
Drink 1 gallon of water per day
Read 10 pages of a book per day (non-fictional and motivational/personal development)
Follow a diet
Workout twice a day for 45 minutes, one workout must be out doors
No cheat meals/alcohol
Take a progress picture daily
Sounds easy enough right? I’m sure it will be too. The toughest part about this program is going to be consistency and planning. Once I complete this, I know I can complete anything. I’m excited to see the outcome of this program and I will be sure to keep you guys updated on my progress. I may modify it a little bit to fit into my lifestyle. For example, if I don’t make the full gallon of water everyday the minimum for me will be 3 liters and I MAY drink one glass of red wine per week. I’m probably going to try not to drink any for at least the first mont though, we shall see. Following a diet isn’t as restrictive as it sounds either. For example, I probably will just cut out pork and beef and not cheat on that. I love bacon and the occasional steak, so that will be tough. All in all, I think it will be a good mental and physical challenge, and I’M READY! If you would like more information for yourself be sure to check out the link. He has a podcast and a book that goes with the program as well!
Hey ya’ll! So, I am currently in “quarantine” in Guam. It’s not actual quarantine, but I am still on Restriction of Movement (ROM) for the first 14 days of my being here. I can’t be around any groups of people and have to maintain social distancing if I’m outside of my room, but I can go workout outside. But don’t fret, I took a COVID test before getting on the plane and I tested negative. Anywho, I just came off the longest leave that I’ve taken while being in the military. I was home for almost 30 days….I will never do that again. It wasn’t all bad, I just don’t need to take that much of a break at home anymore. 12 days max from here on out.
I was able to spend time with some family and friends, however, I didn’t even see everyone whom I thought I would have. This last trip home was very eye-opening for me. I was able to see who really care about me and who doesn’t. I won’t go into much detail about that, but I definitely learned a lot. The older you get, the more you realize that it doesn’t matter if people are family or not, the people that rock with you, will rock with you no matter what. I’ve always been the type that likes to keep people connected, but I don’t know if that’s the direction that I want to go moving forward. I’m really only going to deal with the people that deal with me.
Any who, I am TOTALLY excited to be in Guam. I am scheduled to be stationed here for three years. I say “scheduled”, because that may change after I drop my package to commission and get picked up to become a commissioned officer, I’m speaking that into existence right now. Becoming an officer has always been my goal. I’ve been in the Air Force for 11 years now, and I’m finally ready to make that jump.
In a nutshell, I am excited to be able to settle down here. The first month of 2021 was great. I had family time and a lot of time to reflect on my plans for the year. I’m excited to move and find my next home. I feel like this place will be really good for me in this time of my life and I can’t wait to take you all on the journey!
I don’t know about you all, but 2020 has been a tad bit rough for me. Between COVID-19, the Black Lives Matter movement, all of the deaths, and me gaining weight, it’s been a lot. I really cannot wait for this year to be over, so that I can get my much-needed reset. 2019 left me on such a high and I expected that to be carried over into 2020. I should have known that it was going to be a bad year when Koby Bryant passed in January. Honestly, since then it has been a downward spiral.
Although 2020 has been mostly dreary, it hasn’t been all bad. I could be stuck in much worse places during this pandemic, but I am on the beautiful island of Crete in Greece. Greece isn’t as convenient as a lot of the other places that I’ve lived, it isn’t even my favorite place, but it’s doable. I am only going to be here for one year which is the shortest time that I’ve been at a duty station so far. Unfortunately, I am not able to see a lot of the places that I wanted to see while I’m here. I didn’t even make it to Santorini or Mykonos, but I’m okay with that. I can always travel back here later, or just be content with my Crete experience. This is a beautiful island with a lot to offer as well.
Okay, so I started this post months ago, and I have way more to add to the 2020 blues now. I’m even stuck in the house for the past 14 days on self-isolation. Some of my friends tested positive for COVID and since I had close contact with them I had to self-isolate well, even though I tested negative. This sucks! When I was on quarantine with everyone else…that was different, but having to be home by myself knowing that other people were out there living life, I do not like at all. I don’t know if I’m so anxious right now because I’m ready to leave here. There are so many things that I need to do at work, but I can’t because I can’t go to work. Anywho, tomorrow is my last day of being banned from the base. I’ve been fine this whole time, and I have no symptoms. My 30th birthday is two weeks away from tomorrow, and due to COVID I will not be celebrating as I planned to when this year first started, but that’s okay. Next month I will be going home to spend some much needed time with my family, so I’ll celebrate then. I just wanted to catch you all up on what’s going on in my life thus far. Make sure you check out my Youtube channel as well. Be blessed and stay positive ya’ll! I’m trying my best as well.
Happy August! The month of August definitely has a new meaning this year. With all of the drama surrounding Will and Jada Smith’s marriage with Jada’s entanglement with August Alsina, I thought I’d do a play on words and get into an entanglement myself. Now my entanglement is completely positive and will definitely benefit me in the end. This month I plan on getting into an entanglement with my goals. We only have four more months left in 2020, and it seems like we were robbed a bit with this COVID-19 pandemic. This month, I plan on getting back on track with some of my goals to ensure that I end this year successfully. I would be so far ahead of my fitness goals if COVID never happened, granted I’m glad that I’m alive and well, but I can afford to lose some of the weight that I’ve gained. I also want to make sure that I complete the first class of my masters with an A. One of my biggest challenges this month will be my “no spend” challenge. I only plan on spending money on necessities like groceries and gas. If I do spend money, it will only go towards supporting black-owned businesses. I hope that you’ve set some goals for yourself and you achieve them! I will be tracking my progress via Instagram and Youtube, so if you’d like to follow along and keep me accountable go and subscribe to my Youtube channel. Let’s keep each other accountable!
All of a sudden 2020 got busy as hell for me. Things started off kind of crazy at the beginning of the year, then got really slow during quarantine, but it is ramping back up for me. Greece is officially open, so that means that I have been working full time again and doing my best to explore this island that I’m on. On top of that, I started my first class for my master’s degree. I’m currently attending Liberty University and I’m majoring in Masters of Business Administration. So far I am in the third week of the class, and I’m doing well, but I feel the stress. I also should be studying for the Project Management Professional certification, but I have yet to start doing that. I am doing that all while trying to maintain a relationship, a social life, and stay consistent on my Youtube channel. Other than that, life’s great! How are you doing post quarantine?
It is beautiful when you can have a close relationship with your parents. My mother was my best friend. She passed away on August 11, 2011. I was currently serving in Germany when I heard the news. It wasn’t given to me in the best way possible, but that was many years ago, and I forgive the person that was stepping in as our First Sergeant at the time; he did his best. As a military member, going home for emergency leave has to be one of the worse feelings ever. You don’t really have time to process everything that is going on, because you’re trying to figure out all of the logistics to get home. I was traveling from Germany at the time, so that made it even more difficult.
Any-who, this post isn’t about my mother’s death, it’s about celebrating her life. My mother was born on April 6, 1960, so she would have turned the “big 6-0” today. Turning 60 is a huge milestone. I learned that in Korean culture, they throw a huge celebration where the entire village celebrates the person turning 60. My family is big on birthdays as well, and we do the same. If my mother was here, I would have flown home to South Carolina from Greece to celebrate with her and the rest of my family. My mother and I are just alike in many ways. We both love to party and have fun. She wasn’t a drinker, but still loved to dance and enjoy herself. She was very sarcastic, and had a smart mouth, that’s where I get mine from. She also had beautiful dark skin and the whitest most beautiful teeth. I needed a little help in the teeth department, but they’re good now though.
When I say my mother was my best friend, I mean that. We had the best mother daughter relationship. I am the middle child of five, and the oldest of the youngest. I have one older brother and sister and two younger brothers, so I’m the baby girl. I feel like I was the favorite. My other siblings might say the same as well about themselves, but we all know who the real favorite was. Basically what I’m saying is that my mother always knew how to make me feel special. That’s what I loved most about our relationship. I loved getting good grades and making her proud with my report cards and accolades that I received from school.
One of my the most devastating times in my life was watching my mother become sick. When I was in 10th grade my mother suffered from a stroke and a few other illnesses at once that caused her to be in the ICU and on life support (which I didn’t know at the time). I was so sad and angry during that time of my life, because I felt like she didn’t take care of herself enough to make sure that she was healthy. Everything around me was changing. Being that age is stressful enough, but adding in a sick parent makes things even worse. I made my first “D” that year in Chemistry and cried (yes, I was that student). My mother eventually pulled through that situation, but was sent to live in a nursing home like facility. They did not take good care of her at all while she was there. Every time we would go visit she would complain about her bed sores and how she missed us. She hated the food, and she really just wanted to leave that place. The stroke affected her speech, so she really couldn’t communicate that well either. My family eventually agreed to have her come home and when she was there I was one of her biggest caretakers. My mother was really sick at this point, and couldn’t do much for herself. She was much like a child, and I did alot for her like she was my child. Imagine being in highschool and having to change your mother’s diaper, colostmy bag, and feed her? Sounds like alot right? I did that, even though it was frustrating at times since it was a big adjustment for both of us. She went through a depresssion, and was very sad many days, but we all did our best to lift her spirits and our own. After a few months she adjusted and things became somewhat normal at my grandmother’s house. She still encouraged me to be a teenager in her own way and would cover for me when I would sneak out the house sometimes. That lady was truly my best friend.
If you are still fortunate enough to have your parents in your life, love on them every day. Don’t just celebrate them on holidays or their birthdays; be thankful for them every day. I love my mother dearly, even though she isn’t here physically. She’s with me always, and I know that she’s proud of the woman that I am becoming. Days like these are usually hard for me, but I am happy for the moments that we did share. She made me realize how short life is, and how you have to truly value every day and live life to the fullest. I’ve been doing just that for a while now, and that’t not going to change any time soon.
Hey there! So, I’ve been living in Greece for about ten weeks now, even though I started writing this post from Los Angeles, California (I’ll get into more details about that later). Greece isn’t the first European country that I lived in. My first duty station was Ramstein Air Force Base in Germany. I lived there for three years and loved it. I moved there when I was 19 years old, and I was married at the time. Germany was the place where I would say my “college years” happened. There was much traveling, partying, and accomplishments that happened while I was there. It was my best assignment until I experienced Korea.
You guys already know how much I loved Korea, so let’s get into Greece. I currently live on the island of Crete in Chania. Crete is the largest island of Greece, and it’s about a 40-minute flight from Athens. I live on the economy here as well and found a cute townhouse to rent. Rent here is significantly less here than Korea, but utilities are way more expensive since we are on an island. I have a decent view from the balcony of my room, and I’m having a fun time decorating my place.
I’ve taken a couple of day trips since I’ve been here. My first trip was to Knossos Palace and the Archaeological Museum of Heraklion. It took about two hours to get there from Chania, but it was a beautiful drive. You get to see a lot of mountains and beaches on the way there. Knossos Palace is the famous Minoan place and is mainly ruins now, but they have preserved some of the grounds. It is the largest Bronze Age archaeological site on Crete and has a lot of history there. The second half of the trip included the archaeological museum. A lot of the items that were found in the palace are now stored in the museum. The people of Minos were said to be one of the first civilizations. They created lots of different things that you would see in more modern civilizations, that you can view in the museum.
The second trip that I took was to an olive factory an winery. The trip was advertised as a wine tasting trip and that’s exactly why I went. Learning about how they make olive oil was a bonus for me. My favorite part was the wine tasting, of course. I got so drunk off wine it’s not even funny. After we left the winery we went to a wine festival where you could taste hundreds of different wine for only seven euro, and it came with a free souvenir glass. Needless to say, I had a good time.
I’ve met some pretty cool people since I’ve been here, and I am looking forward to spring/summer to go on even more adventures and explore more of the island. Last weekend I visited Stavros Beach and it was a nice vibe. It’s smaller and clean and right next to a mountain. I’m excited to see what else this island has to offer.
It’s my birthday!!! Unlike some other people that really don’t celebrate their birthday, or make a big deal out of it, I do! I usually try to celebrate everyday like it’s my birthday, so of course I’m going to go all out on my actual day. I am grateful for another year of life and starting a new chapter.
Since my birthday is so close to New Year’s Day, I like to use my birthday as my starting point for new beginnings in the upcoming year. For many reasons, December is a month of reflection and planning for me. I have already written out the goals that I want to accomplish for next year and am planning ways to achieve those goals. I’m a big planner, which is what I contribute a lot of the success that I’ve had so far to. When I write down my goals for the year, I write goals for different areas of my life. Work goals, education goals, financial goals, fitness goals, and personal development goals are what I like to focus on. It may seem like a lot, but 12 months is more than enough time to knock out some goals.
2020 is going to be a year of abundance and happiness, I can feel it! 2019 was a great year for me. There were some goals that I set for 2019 that I didn’t achieve; however, 2020 will make up for it. I challenge you all to write out some new goals for 2020 and create a plan to execute those goals. We all have something great to offer this world and the people around us, but sometimes we just need a freindy reminder and a little push, and your goals can be that push.
Here are some of the goals I have for 2020:
Complete half of my master’s degree
Start Youtube Channel
I wrote down more, but I just wanted to share a few. I hope you all have a great 2020 and are inspired to take action to write your own goals for the New Year. In the meantime, don’t be rude and tell me Happy Birthday!
OMG, where do I start?! So, Bali has been one of my dream vacations for a couple of years now. Once I found out that I was going to Korea, Bali was definitely a must-see place for me. I visited Bali right after my trip to Thailand. When planning this trip, I put Bali as the second half because it’s the place that I wanted to visit more out of the two locations.
So, why is Bali so amazing? I’m glad that you asked. The energy that was in Bali was different than that of Thailand. The smell of incense and the view of the jungle and rice fields that you pass by just gives you a really zen feeling. While in Bali I stayed in Ubud the entire time. We stayed about 20 mins from the city center in a one-bedroom villa with a pool that was near a rice field. The name of the resort was Kubu Bali Baik Villa & Resort and I booked it through http://www.agoda.com. They had breakfast included as well, but it was not a good as the breakfast as the hotel in Phuket.
While getting around Bali, it is a must that you either get a scooter or hire a driver. We had a driver for the entire time we were there and used a scooter taxi once for the experience. The first night we got in pretty late, so we didn’t do anything. The second day we went to the Garuda Winsu Kencana (GWK) Cultural Park in Uluwatu. It has one of the biggest statues in the world. It was amazing to see. There is a history behind many of the statues and figures at the park, and the landscape was beautiful. Later that day we went watched a Kecak Fire Dance at the Uluwatu Temple which was very interesting and entertaining to watch. Watching that dance gave more insight on their culture in Bali. After the fire dance show, our driver took it upon himself to take us to this amazing seafood restaurant that was on the beach in Jimbaran. We had no idea that place existed, but I’m happy he took us there. The scenery was something that you see on tv.
The third day was one of the best days of my life, hands down! Everything we did was something I wanted to do, so you know it was a good time. First off we got up early and headed off to Aloha Ubud which is one place where they have Bali swings and rice fields. You can also do a taste testing for their local coffee and tea. The swings were so much fun! It was one of my favorite parts of the trip. The tea and coffee were delicious as well. One of the coffees came from an animal called the Luwak that poops out the coffee beans whole and the way it digests it causes a fermentation process. It was pretty cool. After that, we went over to the Mason Elephant Lodge and I got to ride an elephant named Boris. Boris was huge and so nice. He let me feed him afterward too. There was also a five-month-old baby elephant at the lodge. He was super cute. After the elephant lodge, we rode ATVs at a newer company and it was so dope! They fed us lunch before we went on the ATVs, which was cool. I was the better driver, even though it was my first time riding ATVs. After the thrill ride, we went back to the hotel to shower and head to downtown Ubud. We ate at a restaurant called Famous, then started to walk towards one of our favorite bars that we stumbled across the day before. On the walk towards the bar, I spotted out a hookah bar called Shisha Lounge that had the best hookah I have ever tasted! I felt like I was in the clouds after two puffs. We stopped at another bar on the way to the initial bar we were trying to go too and by the time we got there, it was closed.
The fourth day was very peaceful. We started the day by going to a temple where you could get inside the pool of water and cleanse yourself. We weren’t dressed for the occasion, so we passed on that and walked around the temple instead of sightseeing. After leaving the temple we went to a waterfall that you could get some really good shots at. Other than that, I wasn’t amused. I was honestly ready to go and didn’t even want to take pictures, but I got some good shots. After that, we ate at a little restaurant outside of the waterfall and went back to the hotel since we opted out of riding the two hours to the gates of heaven.
The last day we walked around Ubud center for a little bit before our spa day. We ended up running into a cute little brunch spot which I loved. We took a taxi scooter to the Kaveri Spa and experienced the Royal Couples Massage. The massage and green tea body scrub was amazing and the milk bath afterward had my skin feeling nice and smooth. Later that day we went to the Campuhan Ridge Walk and saw some breathtaking views. I wanted to go to the hookah lounge again after that, but we headed to the hotel to pack and chill instead.
Overall, Bali was amazing. The people were nice and had a good sense of humor. Getting around wasn’t hard at all, and there was plenty to do, so we never got bored. I would definitely visit again. This two-week vacay made me realize a lot of tips that you should know before traveling internationally that I will share in another post. I hope you guys enjoyed this post!