Happy Birthday Mommy!

Happy Birthday Mommy!

It is beautiful when you can have a close relationship with your parents. My mother was my best friend. She passed away on August 11, 2011. I was currently serving in Germany when I heard the news. It wasn’t given to me in the best way possible, but that was many years ago, and I forgive the person that was stepping in as our First Sergeant at the time; he did his best. As a military member, going home for emergency leave has to be one of the worse feelings ever. You don’t really have time to process everything that is going on, because you’re trying to figure out all of the logistics to get home. I was traveling from Germany at the time, so that made it even more difficult.

Any-who, this post isn’t about my mother’s death, it’s about celebrating her life. My mother was born on April 6, 1960, so she would have turned the “big 6-0” today. Turning 60 is a huge milestone. I learned that in Korean culture, they throw a huge celebration where the entire village celebrates the person turning 60. My family is big on birthdays as well, and we do the same. If my mother was here, I would have flown home to South Carolina from Greece to celebrate with her and the rest of my family. My mother and I are just alike in many ways. We both love to party and have fun. She wasn’t a drinker, but still loved to dance and enjoy herself. She was very sarcastic, and had a smart mouth, that’s where I get mine from. She also had beautiful dark skin and the whitest most beautiful teeth. I needed a little help in the teeth department, but they’re good now though.

When I say my mother was my best friend, I mean that. We had the best mother daughter relationship. I am the middle child of five, and the oldest of the youngest. I have one older brother and sister and two younger brothers, so I’m the baby girl. I feel like I was the favorite. My other siblings might say the same as well about themselves, but we all know who the real favorite was. Basically what I’m saying is that my mother always knew how to make me feel special. That’s what I loved most about our relationship. I loved getting good grades and making her proud with my report cards and accolades that I received from school.

One of my the most devastating times in my life was watching my mother become sick. When I was in 10th grade my mother suffered from a stroke and a few other illnesses at once that caused her to be in the ICU and on life support (which I didn’t know at the time). I was so sad and angry during that time of my life, because I felt like she didn’t take care of herself enough to make sure that she was healthy. Everything around me was changing. Being that age is stressful enough, but adding in a sick parent makes things even worse. I made my first “D” that year in Chemistry and cried (yes, I was that student). My mother eventually pulled through that situation, but was sent to live in a nursing home like facility. They did not take good care of her at all while she was there. Every time we would go visit she would complain about her bed sores and how she missed us. She hated the food, and she really just wanted to leave that place. The stroke affected her speech, so she really couldn’t communicate that well either. My family eventually agreed to have her come home and when she was there I was one of her biggest caretakers. My mother was really sick at this point, and couldn’t do much for herself. She was much like a child, and I did alot for her like she was my child. Imagine being in highschool and having to change your mother’s diaper, colostmy bag, and feed her? Sounds like alot right? I did that, even though it was frustrating at times since it was a big adjustment for both of us. She went through a depresssion, and was very sad many days, but we all did our best to lift her spirits and our own. After a few months she adjusted and things became somewhat normal at my grandmother’s house. She still encouraged me to be a teenager in her own way and would cover for me when I would sneak out the house sometimes. That lady was truly my best friend.

If you are still fortunate enough to have your parents in your life, love on them every day. Don’t just celebrate them on holidays or their birthdays; be thankful for them every day. I love my mother dearly, even though she isn’t here physically. She’s with me always, and I know that she’s proud of the woman that I am becoming. Days like these are usually hard for me, but I am happy for the moments that we did share. She made me realize how short life is, and how you have to truly value every day and live life to the fullest. I’ve been doing just that for a while now, and that’t not going to change any time soon.

Rest on Mommy, and Happy Birthday!

Just Keep Calm | Quarantine Tips

Just Keep Calm | Quarantine Tips

Hello everyone! There’s alot of pandemonium going on in the world, but it’s in times like these we need to remain the most calm. Trust me, I know it can be easier said than done for some people, but it can be done. Stress, nor fear will help the situation, so why add to the chaos? The COVID-19 virus has took the world by storm, and alot of people are reacting to this crisis. Many of us have been told to self-quarantine and practice social distancing, which ulitmately means to stay at home. If you’re like me and work Monday through Friday, staying at home can get pretty boring after a while. I’ve come up with a list of things that you can do during this time to pass the time in a more productive way.

Here are five tips to keep you sane during this crazy time.

1. Clean up
Cleaning up might not sound like the funnest thing to do, but given the circumstances of this quarantine, I highly recommend cleaning and disinfecting your home. Also, cleaning can be fun! I always have a party when I clean. Blast some music and get to it! You can dance your heart away without being judged, and you also burn calories at the same time, which is an added bonus.

2. Excercise
Something that I haven’t had a chance to do since I’ve been in Greece is to actually walk around my neighborhood. Most of the gyms are closed, but no one said that you couldn’t workout outside. Taking a walk throughout the day will lift your mood, give you some natural vitamin D, and burn calories. Working out at home is also an option. There are many home workouts online that you can find on Youtube, Instagram, Facebook, etc.

3. Read a book
You know that book that you’ve been telling yourself that you’re going to read since the year started? Pick that up and actually read it now since you have the time. Now is the perfect time to do so. If you really don’t like reading you can listen to an audiobook instead. Audiobooks are awesome because you can listen while doing other things like cleaning and exercising. My favorite audio books are those that are read by the author. Kevin Hart, Michelle Obama, Jenifer Lewis, and many others have audio versions of their books that they read themselves. I highly recommend their books.

4. Learn a new skill
Maybe you’ve been too busy to start that new venture, or learn that new skill that’s peaked your interest. If that’s you, you are not alone. I have been putting off getting my Youtube channel started because I don’t know how to edit videos, but now I have all this free time to learn how.

5. Practice Self-Care
Honestly, the biggest thing that you should be doing this time is taking care of yourself. Relax, don’t freak out, and make sure that when this has passed, you come out better than you started. Self-care can mean many different things to different people. For me self-care is taking care of my skin with at home facials, doing my hair, making sure my body is moisturized, drinking my herbal tea, and anything that makes me feel good and zen. I also love buring candles. I notice that they calm me and taking baths with either bath bombs or epsom salt relaxes me as well.

I hope these tips are helpful for you. There’s honestly many things that you can do during this time to ensure your sanity. If you have children at home during this time, good luck and more power to you. This is a great time to bond with those that you love as well. If they are near or far. Technology allows us to stay connected, so let’s be thankful for that.

Stay safe out there and remember that you are be-YOU-tiful and life is meant to be lived abundantly!

So, How’s Greece? |Two Month Recap

So, How’s Greece? |Two Month Recap

Hey there! So, I’ve been living in Greece for about ten weeks now, even though I started writing this post from Los Angeles, California (I’ll get into more details about that later). Greece isn’t the first European country that I lived in. My first duty station was Ramstein Air Force Base in Germany. I lived there for three years and loved it. I moved there when I was 19 years old, and I was married at the time. Germany was the place where I would say my “college years” happened. There was much traveling, partying, and accomplishments that happened while I was there. It was my best assignment until I experienced Korea.

You guys already know how much I loved Korea, so let’s get into Greece. I currently live on the island of Crete in Chania. Crete is the largest island of Greece, and it’s about a 40-minute flight from Athens. I live on the economy here as well and found a cute townhouse to rent. Rent here is significantly less here than Korea, but utilities are way more expensive since we are on an island. I have a decent view from the balcony of my room, and I’m having a fun time decorating my place.

I’ve taken a couple of day trips since I’ve been here. My first trip was to Knossos Palace and the Archaeological Museum of Heraklion. It took about two hours to get there from Chania, but it was a beautiful drive. You get to see a lot of mountains and beaches on the way there. Knossos Palace is the famous Minoan place and is mainly ruins now, but they have preserved some of the grounds. It is the largest Bronze Age archaeological site on Crete and has a lot of history there. The second half of the trip included the archaeological museum. A lot of the items that were found in the palace are now stored in the museum. The people of Minos were said to be one of the first civilizations. They created lots of different things that you would see in more modern civilizations, that you can view in the museum.

The second trip that I took was to an olive factory an winery. The trip was advertised as a wine tasting trip and that’s exactly why I went. Learning about how they make olive oil was a bonus for me. My favorite part was the wine tasting, of course. I got so drunk off wine it’s not even funny. After we left the winery we went to a wine festival where you could taste hundreds of different wine for only seven euro, and it came with a free souvenir glass. Needless to say, I had a good time.

I’ve met some pretty cool people since I’ve been here, and I am looking forward to spring/summer to go on even more adventures and explore more of the island. Last weekend I visited Stavros Beach and it was a nice vibe. It’s smaller and clean and right next to a mountain. I’m excited to see what else this island has to offer.

Hello Twenty-FINE!

Hello Twenty-FINE!

It’s my birthday!!! Unlike some other people that really don’t celebrate their birthday, or make a big deal out of it, I do! I usually try to celebrate everyday like it’s my birthday, so of course I’m going to go all out on my actual day. I am grateful for another year of life and starting a new chapter.

Since my birthday is so close to New Year’s Day, I like to use my birthday as my starting point for new beginnings in the upcoming year. For many reasons, December is a month of reflection and planning for me. I have already written out the goals that I want to accomplish for next year and am planning ways to achieve those goals. I’m a big planner, which is what I contribute a lot of the success that I’ve had so far to. When I write down my goals for the year, I write goals for different areas of my life. Work goals, education goals, financial goals, fitness goals, and personal development goals are what I like to focus on. It may seem like a lot, but 12 months is more than enough time to knock out some goals.

2020 is going to be a year of abundance and happiness, I can feel it! 2019 was a great year for me. There were some goals that I set for 2019 that I didn’t achieve; however, 2020 will make up for it. I challenge you all to write out some new goals for 2020 and create a plan to execute those goals. We all have something great to offer this world and the people around us, but sometimes we just need a freindy reminder and a little push, and your goals can be that push.

Here are some of the goals I have for 2020:

  1. Complete half of my master’s degree
  2. Master FOREX
  3. Manifest $10K
  4. Start Youtube Channel

I wrote down more, but I just wanted to share a few. I hope you all have a great 2020 and are inspired to take action to write your own goals for the New Year. In the meantime, don’t be rude and tell me Happy Birthday!

Let’s talk about BALI!

Let’s talk about BALI!

OMG, where do I start?! So, Bali has been one of my dream vacations for a couple of years now. Once I found out that I was going to Korea, Bali was definitely a must-see place for me. I visited Bali right after my trip to Thailand. When planning this trip, I put Bali as the second half because it’s the place that I wanted to visit more out of the two locations.

So, why is Bali so amazing? I’m glad that you asked. The energy that was in Bali was different than that of Thailand. The smell of incense and the view of the jungle and rice fields that you pass by just gives you a really zen feeling. While in Bali I stayed in Ubud the entire time. We stayed about 20 mins from the city center in a one-bedroom villa with a pool that was near a rice field. The name of the resort was Kubu Bali Baik Villa & Resort and I booked it through http://www.agoda.com. They had breakfast included as well, but it was not a good as the breakfast as the hotel in Phuket.

While getting around Bali, it is a must that you either get a scooter or hire a driver. We had a driver for the entire time we were there and used a scooter taxi once for the experience. The first night we got in pretty late, so we didn’t do anything. The second day we went to the Garuda Winsu Kencana (GWK) Cultural Park in Uluwatu. It has one of the biggest statues in the world. It was amazing to see. There is a history behind many of the statues and figures at the park, and the landscape was beautiful. Later that day we went watched a Kecak Fire Dance at the Uluwatu Temple which was very interesting and entertaining to watch. Watching that dance gave more insight on their culture in Bali. After the fire dance show, our driver took it upon himself to take us to this amazing seafood restaurant that was on the beach in Jimbaran. We had no idea that place existed, but I’m happy he took us there. The scenery was something that you see on tv.

The third day was one of the best days of my life, hands down! Everything we did was something I wanted to do, so you know it was a good time. First off we got up early and headed off to Aloha Ubud which is one place where they have Bali swings and rice fields. You can also do a taste testing for their local coffee and tea. The swings were so much fun! It was one of my favorite parts of the trip. The tea and coffee were delicious as well. One of the coffees came from an animal called the Luwak that poops out the coffee beans whole and the way it digests it causes a fermentation process. It was pretty cool. After that, we went over to the Mason Elephant Lodge and I got to ride an elephant named Boris. Boris was huge and so nice. He let me feed him afterward too. There was also a five-month-old baby elephant at the lodge. He was super cute. After the elephant lodge, we rode ATVs at a newer company and it was so dope! They fed us lunch before we went on the ATVs, which was cool. I was the better driver, even though it was my first time riding ATVs. After the thrill ride, we went back to the hotel to shower and head to downtown Ubud. We ate at a restaurant called Famous, then started to walk towards one of our favorite bars that we stumbled across the day before. On the walk towards the bar, I spotted out a hookah bar called Shisha Lounge that had the best hookah I have ever tasted! I felt like I was in the clouds after two puffs. We stopped at another bar on the way to the initial bar we were trying to go too and by the time we got there, it was closed.

The fourth day was very peaceful. We started the day by going to a temple where you could get inside the pool of water and cleanse yourself. We weren’t dressed for the occasion, so we passed on that and walked around the temple instead of sightseeing. After leaving the temple we went to a waterfall that you could get some really good shots at. Other than that, I wasn’t amused. I was honestly ready to go and didn’t even want to take pictures, but I got some good shots. After that, we ate at a little restaurant outside of the waterfall and went back to the hotel since we opted out of riding the two hours to the gates of heaven.

The last day we walked around Ubud center for a little bit before our spa day. We ended up running into a cute little brunch spot which I loved. We took a taxi scooter to the Kaveri Spa and experienced the Royal Couples Massage. The massage and green tea body scrub was amazing and the milk bath afterward had my skin feeling nice and smooth. Later that day we went to the Campuhan Ridge Walk and saw some breathtaking views. I wanted to go to the hookah lounge again after that, but we headed to the hotel to pack and chill instead.

Overall, Bali was amazing. The people were nice and had a good sense of humor. Getting around wasn’t hard at all, and there was plenty to do, so we never got bored. I would definitely visit again. This two-week vacay made me realize a lot of tips that you should know before traveling internationally that I will share in another post. I hope you guys enjoyed this post!

I’m so cool, that they had to go through extra measures to make me scream on the swing lol.
Feeding my new friend Boris

Bucket List Item: Phuket, Thailand

I finally made it to Thailand! I have been living in Korea for the past 23 months, and finally got a chance to do what I said I was going to do before I got here. Thailand has been a dream destination of mine for about five years now, and it finally happened. This trip was a “baecation” which was a first for me, and had its challenges, but it was fun nonetheless. I actually traveled to Bali after Phuket, but I will talk about that in another post.

We started our voyage to Phuket from Incheon Airport in Seoul. Side note, having an American Express Platinum Card is AMAZING when you’re traveling abroad. One benefit of the card is a free Priority Pass membership which gives you access to the executive and business lounges in the airport. They usually are equipped with comfortable seating, free food, wi-fi, wine, beer, and TV. They are the best for long layovers, or if you get to the airport early and are just waiting to board. It definitely beats waiting at the gate with hundreds of people. For military members all the fees are waived, which is an extra perk. If you would like to apply for the card here is my referral link.

Anywho, the first day that we arrived was pretty late. We stayed at the Bandara Phuket Beach Resort in Panwa. The area was more quiet than the busy city of Patong, but it was nice and the people were very friendly. The breakfast buffet that we had there was amazing. The pool had a restaurant and bar attached that had really good food and a nice happy hour special for drinks. There is a fitness room there that opens at 8am if you would like to keep up with your fitness while on vacation. We used it twice.

While we were in Phuket we did a lot! We saw Big Buddha, went to Tiger Kingdom, Patong Beach, ate at some really cool restaurants, did a James Bond Island excursion, Phi Phi Island excursion, ate street food at a night market, and even went to a ping pong show (if you know, you know). If I were to tell you about each day, this post would be too long, so I’ll just give you the highlights. My favorite part of the trip was the James Bond Island tour. The tour was a free gift to us because I took advantage of the offer from the Club Wyndham representatives at Tiger Kingdom. They gave us roundtrip transportation from our hotel and included lunch, drinks, and fruit as a snack. We went to a few smaller secluded islands and had the chance to go snorkeling and canoeing through the limestone rocks in the ocean. James Bond Island was a beautiful site and I would highly recommend checking it out if you’re in Phuket. Phi Phi Island was cool too, but the experience wasn’t as good as the James Bond Island tour. The next time I visit that area I will actually stay on Phi Phi Island.

If you would like more information about this vacation, feel free to contact me. Be blessed!

Walking up to Big Buddha in Phuket

Climbing Mt. Katsuu

Climbing Mt. Katsuu

This Labor Day weekend I traveled to Okinawa, Japan to spend time with my beau and get away from Korea. My last trip to Okinawa was in June, and was not that great, so I was a little apprehensive but gave it another try. This time the weather was amazing as opposed to the rain and total downpour that I experienced while visiting in June. I was able to do way more “outdoorsy” activities and enjoyed my time there very much.

Since we decided to relax on Friday night instead of going out to party we were able to wake up early enough on Saturday to go hiking. I had no idea what we were going to get ourselves into, but I decided to be optimistic. As we start heading up the mountain, it’s kind of steep but we figured that it wasn’t going to be like that the entire time, but boy were we wrong. It took about 45 minutes to climb the mountain with a couple picture breaks in between. On the way up the mountain we passed a guy who warned us of how steep it was, but we still were not prepared for the amount of climbing we had to do. Once we got to the top of the mountain it made it all worth it though. I was tired, sweaty, and my legs were shaking once I saw how high we actually were.

Reaching the top of Mt. Katsuu with a person that I love and care about very much was an amazing feeling. There was a family that we ended up passing by on the way up that eventually caught up to us and offered to take our pictures. My beau got some amazing shots of me as well, and of course I made him shout out his love for me once we got to the top of the mountain. Overall, it was a great experience that I probably won’t want to do again. It was cool and all, but I only need to try it once. It was super steep and we were sooo tired afterwards.

I graduated!!!

I graduated!!!

Okay, so this post is a tad bit late, but not that late. In May 2019 I attended my commencement ceremony at Ashford University in San Diego. I decided to travel from South Korea all the way to California to experience this moment. Getting my bachelor’s degree in eMarketing was a big deal for me, and I wanted to reward myself with that experience. Unfortunately, only one of my friends who happened to be stationed in that area could attend my graduation, and no family members, but the experience was still great nonetheless. I officially completed my last class in July, and my diploma should be in the mail as I type. I was proud to see that I graduated with honor, even though when I walked across the stage I did not know of my status because I still had to finish my degree. I graduated Cum Laude, and I am super proud of myself because I know how hard that is to do while working full time, traveling, being a supervisor, and just trying to live life in general.

Attending my graduation meant that I was able to visit California and kill two birds with one stone. I flew into San Diego and then my good friend Halimah and I drove to Los Angeles and ended our trip in Sacramento. While in Los Angeles we visited Crenshaw and Slauson and was able to see Nipsey Hussle’s murals and his clothing store. That was really a surreal moment and one of the highlights of my graduation trip. Overall, this experience was amazing and graduating and earning my bachelor’s was one of my main goals when I first joined the military. It’s been nine years, and I finally accomplished that goal. I’m proud of myself, and that is a wonderful feeling.

Something’s Changed

Something’s Changed

Hey y’all! So, recently I have been feeling really happy lately. Like something has definitely shifted in my life. I am receiving love and positive attention from every angle. Things are going great at work, I have people in my life that love and appreciate me. Strangers even take the time out to tell me how special I am. So what really changed? What brought about all this positive energy? 

I know what changed. My mindset, my outlook on life. I know it may seem like I have always been this positive person, and that’s true but we all have our own insecurities, and that includes me. Nowadays, I am more secure in myself and my abilities. I don’t stress about how I look, if people will like me, how much money I make, etc. I just know that everything will work out for me in the end. I am vibrating on a frequency of love and happiness because that’s how I truly feel. Since I give that energy out to the world, that is what I am receiving. 

As a woman, I automatically possess this divine power, but being a black woman makes it even more special. Being in Korea has made me realize that. To a lot of people, I am this exotic being. I get so many stares and looks that I don’t even notice it anymore until one of my friends points it out. When you live in your own little world of peace and love, you tend to block all of that out, at least I do. I just want to do my best to continue to live a life that others look up to and to inspire the next generation in my own special way. 


So, it’s been awhile!!

So, it’s been awhile!!

Hello everyone!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my blog, and I just wanted to catch you up on some things that have been going on with me. If you follow me on social media, you have seen how busy Korea has been keeping me. This PCS was a blessing that I didn’t know I needed. Since I’ve been here my credit has gone up, I’m more confident, I’ve gotten to know myself better, and overall I am just happy with the woman I’m becoming. My last blog post was about me getting fit, and I did just that. I got the best score on my Air Force Fitness Test that I’ve gotten in my entire Korea. I think not having a car in Korea and working out consistently really helped. I was surprised at myself when I heard my scores.

I’ve also made some new friends, explored Korea a lot, and even won an award at work. Things have been really great here for me these past ten months. Most people would be preparing to leave here around this time, but I still have 14 months left. My first international vacation while being in Korea is going to be to the Philippines. I’m excited to visit, although it was never on my list of places to see, but why not? I may actually start vlogging while I’m there, but we shall see. This was just meant to be a quick post since I haven’t written in a while. I have a lot of new ideas for 2019. I just hope that I can keep up with myself because I’m barely making it now with my jam-packed schedule, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Life is great!