I am a young entrepreneur, dreamer, and lover of all things good. I want to be a positive light for others by encouraging them to achieve their goals. I hope to be be an example by living out my own dreams. My mission is to help others believe in themselves and know that life is meant to be lived abundantly.
Whew! Did ya’ll watch the Oscars? Even if you didn’t watch the Oscars, I’m pretty sure you saw Will Smith pimp slap Chris Rock over his joke that he made about his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith. I did not tune into the Oscars due to the time difference in Guam, I was already at work when I heard the news. What are my thoughts on the matter? I’m glad you asked. I believe that Will Smith was simply defending his wife against a man who was clearing disrespecting her in front of a room full of people and millions of viewers. Do I think that he could have handled the situation better? Yes, I do. Although I agree with Will’s intentions, his execution could have been better. I get it though. We’re human. We let our emotions get the best of us sometimes no matter how emotionally intelligent we are.
This incident sparked a lot of conversation about race, and hair, and black women in particular. We know that black women in America are the most disrespected according the the late great, Malcolm X. Even though we are among one of the smartest most successful demographics in America, we still get disrespected and slighted. It is nice to see SOMEONE take up for black women no matter what it looked like. Jada is Will’s wife despite what we all may think about their relationship, that is still his wife.
Violence, however, is never the answer and we just can’t go slapping people in public just because they said something that we don’t like. Will Smith apologized for letting his emotions get the best of him on what some would call one of the most important nights of his career. The irony of it all was that he actually won an Oscar for his role in King Richard, but his accomplishment was overshadowed by that incident.
Will Smith is a great human being. I’m sure we all can agree to that. He made a mistake in slapping Chris Rock, however he did not make a mistake in protecting his wife. Black women deserve to be protected and respected.
I wrote the title of this post and then pondered deeply on the thought of 2021 being my “slice of humble pie”. On the outside looking in, it wasn’t a bad year for me. I bought a brand new house on an island that most people never even heard of. I’m the Cyber Systems Outstanding Noncommissioned Officer of the Year out of all the bases in the Pacific Command. However, along with those great accomplishments I also experienced betrayal, body image issues (weight gain), living without the internet for months, not having my household goods delivered until 22 November, death in the family, and a whole bunch of other things.
This year has reiterated what I’ve already known. You have to take the good with the bad. Life isn’t going to always be sunshine and rainbows all of the time. You can be up one day and down the next. Your clothes can fit perfectly one year and the next year they can make you feel like a whale. Your skin is flawless one day and look like a Crunch bar the next, but those times are when you discover the real you. Do you fold or do you continue to show up for yourself and the people around you?
I am proud to say that I did not fold. I still showed up to work with a great attitude even though I was having the worst acne breakouts of my life, at age 30 by the way. I continued to go to the gym and figure out different ways to accommodate these newfound curves that I have. After my breakup, I was out there meeting new people and not being a bitter woman. I now have this new mantra to love myself at each stage. I may not be as skinny as I used to be, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not worthy. As long as I’m healthy, that’s all that matters. I still got an excellent score on my PT test which was something that the 20-year-old airman didn’t do. My house is finally coming along. I enjoy decorating and making this place feel like home and my personal sanctuary, which is something that I’ve never done before. The vibe in my house is so nice and chill, trust me.
2021 has taught me a lot about myself. Chapter 30 brought out the big guns, but I’m thankful. I’m ready for this next chapter of my life and I’m open to all of the new lessons that it will bring. I doubted myself for a little bit this year, but not anymore. With my new year right around the corner, great things are on the horizon.
You know what…I’m low-key tired of making post like this. I literally haven’t posted on my blog since February, and that is horrible. In my defense, I have been doing a lot of things that didn’t allow me to post, but nine months is still a bit of a stretch. Lets start from the beginning.
I moved to the island of Guam in February. If you’ve never heard of Guam, it’s a US Territory in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. It’s on the same side of the world as Korea and Japan, but way more remote. Since then, there has been a lot of adjusting. I purchased a new home in April. That process was very stressful, but it’s proving to be well worth it. I love my house. It’s my favorite thing about being here, and I’m thinking of staying here longer because of it.
This year wasn’t the best year for me as far as success and love, I will admit. I did buy a house, but that’s about it. I lost my uncle this year in May and that really hit me hard. I wasn’t expecting that at all. I also, ended a relationship that I was really excited about, so its back to the single life for me. Everything happens for a reason though, so I’m hopeful. This was the first year of my 30s and it has been a whirlwind. I have noticed the new perspective that comes with being 30 though. I do not have time to entertain anything or anyone that isn’t beneficial to me. I am more comfortable with who I am and how I look. Its crazy that this year is almost over already. I will be turning 31 next month, which is wild to me.
I have met some good people since I’ve been here, so that’s a plus. Meeting new people and building those relationships is something that I enjoy doing. You never know how people will impact your life until you give them a chance. The whole “no new friends” never really set well with me. With that being said, bare with me and stay tuned for more adventures of Guam.
Somehow I always find myself doing some type of fitness or diet challenge. I think it’s just in my Capricorn nature at this point. This next challenge that I’m embarking on (starting March 1, 2021) will be my longest challenge thus far. I actually got the idea from one of my friends and decided that I should see if I could challenge myself as well. The name of the challenge is 75hard. You can read about all of the details on 75hard.com. The creator of this program is Andy Frisella, and he created it to be more than a fitness challenge, even though it is fitness related. This challenge is marketed as a “TRANSFORMATIVE MENTAL TOUGHNESS PROGRAM“. After checking out the website for myself and listening to my friend’s journey, I decided that I wanted to do this for myself as well. I am living in a new area and only know a small amount of people here, so this if the perfect time to focus on me and my goals.
The program is 75 days long, which is longer than any of the challenges that I have ever done. I usually do 30 day fitness challenges, even then I still cheat a little on those challenges. This time I plan to follow the entire program and do all required days. My goal for this program is to propel me even further into this next decade of my life. I want to start my 30s off with a bang, and finish it the same way as well. I feel like this program will allow me to do that. The requirements of this program are as followed:
Drink 1 gallon of water per day
Read 10 pages of a book per day (non-fictional and motivational/personal development)
Follow a diet
Workout twice a day for 45 minutes, one workout must be out doors
No cheat meals/alcohol
Take a progress picture daily
Sounds easy enough right? I’m sure it will be too. The toughest part about this program is going to be consistency and planning. Once I complete this, I know I can complete anything. I’m excited to see the outcome of this program and I will be sure to keep you guys updated on my progress. I may modify it a little bit to fit into my lifestyle. For example, if I don’t make the full gallon of water everyday the minimum for me will be 3 liters and I MAY drink one glass of red wine per week. I’m probably going to try not to drink any for at least the first mont though, we shall see. Following a diet isn’t as restrictive as it sounds either. For example, I probably will just cut out pork and beef and not cheat on that. I love bacon and the occasional steak, so that will be tough. All in all, I think it will be a good mental and physical challenge, and I’M READY! If you would like more information for yourself be sure to check out the link. He has a podcast and a book that goes with the program as well!
Hey ya’ll! So, I am currently in “quarantine” in Guam. It’s not actual quarantine, but I am still on Restriction of Movement (ROM) for the first 14 days of my being here. I can’t be around any groups of people and have to maintain social distancing if I’m outside of my room, but I can go workout outside. But don’t fret, I took a COVID test before getting on the plane and I tested negative. Anywho, I just came off the longest leave that I’ve taken while being in the military. I was home for almost 30 days….I will never do that again. It wasn’t all bad, I just don’t need to take that much of a break at home anymore. 12 days max from here on out.
I was able to spend time with some family and friends, however, I didn’t even see everyone whom I thought I would have. This last trip home was very eye-opening for me. I was able to see who really care about me and who doesn’t. I won’t go into much detail about that, but I definitely learned a lot. The older you get, the more you realize that it doesn’t matter if people are family or not, the people that rock with you, will rock with you no matter what. I’ve always been the type that likes to keep people connected, but I don’t know if that’s the direction that I want to go moving forward. I’m really only going to deal with the people that deal with me.
Any who, I am TOTALLY excited to be in Guam. I am scheduled to be stationed here for three years. I say “scheduled”, because that may change after I drop my package to commission and get picked up to become a commissioned officer, I’m speaking that into existence right now. Becoming an officer has always been my goal. I’ve been in the Air Force for 11 years now, and I’m finally ready to make that jump.
In a nutshell, I am excited to be able to settle down here. The first month of 2021 was great. I had family time and a lot of time to reflect on my plans for the year. I’m excited to move and find my next home. I feel like this place will be really good for me in this time of my life and I can’t wait to take you all on the journey!
I know I’m not the first person to hear that, and since I have just started the 30th chapter of my life, I’m about to find out! My 20s have been an amazing roller coaster. I’ve learned and grown so much since entering “adulthood” on my 18th birthday. It’s crazy how fast time flies. I remember turning 18 and having this whole vision of what my life was going to be like. I knew that I was going to join the Air Force, and do that for a few years or so. The plan was to use the Air Force to pay for college and then go on my merry way in whatever field that I got my degree in. Boy did my plans change quickly! On my 18th birthday, you could have never told me that I was going to be married at 19 and living overseas in Germany and that I would lose my mother at 20. I wouldn’t have believed that I would be purchasing my own home in Florida at 22, and divorced by 24. Who would have known that I would find myself in different entanglements and living in South Korea for two years then back to Europe to live in Greece for a year? My 18-year-old self wouldn’t have been able to imagine any of this. But that has been my life, and despite all of the ups and downs, it has been amazing.
Now I am a 30-year-old woman who is more self-assured and confident than ever. I don’t even want to be referred to as Queen anymore, but Goddess. I have noticed how my presence is more goddess-like than queen like over the past few years. Some people are completely enchanted with me off of one conversation. I used to think that it was so crazy when I did not know that power I possessed, but now I have some insight. I am more in touch with my feminity and what it means to be a divine woman. I still don’t know all the answers, but I am the process of learning what that truly means. What I do know is my worth. I know that I am love and deserved to be loved and cared for in the highest regard. I do know that I make the lives of people around me better, and not worse. I do know that I have a great value and offer much to this world. Most times I just need to get out of my own way to let it manifest.
In this next chapter of my life, I plan on it being absolutely amazing and inspirational. I know I have others looking up to me and they are expecting me to win so that they know that they are capable of winning too. I have people following in my footsteps that I cannot let down, and I will not let down. I am so happy and proud of the woman that I have become. I plan to continue to spread love, light, and abundance while I manifest my wildest dreams!
I don’t know about you all, but 2020 has been a tad bit rough for me. Between COVID-19, the Black Lives Matter movement, all of the deaths, and me gaining weight, it’s been a lot. I really cannot wait for this year to be over, so that I can get my much-needed reset. 2019 left me on such a high and I expected that to be carried over into 2020. I should have known that it was going to be a bad year when Koby Bryant passed in January. Honestly, since then it has been a downward spiral.
Although 2020 has been mostly dreary, it hasn’t been all bad. I could be stuck in much worse places during this pandemic, but I am on the beautiful island of Crete in Greece. Greece isn’t as convenient as a lot of the other places that I’ve lived, it isn’t even my favorite place, but it’s doable. I am only going to be here for one year which is the shortest time that I’ve been at a duty station so far. Unfortunately, I am not able to see a lot of the places that I wanted to see while I’m here. I didn’t even make it to Santorini or Mykonos, but I’m okay with that. I can always travel back here later, or just be content with my Crete experience. This is a beautiful island with a lot to offer as well.
Okay, so I started this post months ago, and I have way more to add to the 2020 blues now. I’m even stuck in the house for the past 14 days on self-isolation. Some of my friends tested positive for COVID and since I had close contact with them I had to self-isolate well, even though I tested negative. This sucks! When I was on quarantine with everyone else…that was different, but having to be home by myself knowing that other people were out there living life, I do not like at all. I don’t know if I’m so anxious right now because I’m ready to leave here. There are so many things that I need to do at work, but I can’t because I can’t go to work. Anywho, tomorrow is my last day of being banned from the base. I’ve been fine this whole time, and I have no symptoms. My 30th birthday is two weeks away from tomorrow, and due to COVID I will not be celebrating as I planned to when this year first started, but that’s okay. Next month I will be going home to spend some much needed time with my family, so I’ll celebrate then. I just wanted to catch you all up on what’s going on in my life thus far. Make sure you check out my Youtube channel as well. Be blessed and stay positive ya’ll! I’m trying my best as well.
Happy August! The month of August definitely has a new meaning this year. With all of the drama surrounding Will and Jada Smith’s marriage with Jada’s entanglement with August Alsina, I thought I’d do a play on words and get into an entanglement myself. Now my entanglement is completely positive and will definitely benefit me in the end. This month I plan on getting into an entanglement with my goals. We only have four more months left in 2020, and it seems like we were robbed a bit with this COVID-19 pandemic. This month, I plan on getting back on track with some of my goals to ensure that I end this year successfully. I would be so far ahead of my fitness goals if COVID never happened, granted I’m glad that I’m alive and well, but I can afford to lose some of the weight that I’ve gained. I also want to make sure that I complete the first class of my masters with an A. One of my biggest challenges this month will be my “no spend” challenge. I only plan on spending money on necessities like groceries and gas. If I do spend money, it will only go towards supporting black-owned businesses. I hope that you’ve set some goals for yourself and you achieve them! I will be tracking my progress via Instagram and Youtube, so if you’d like to follow along and keep me accountable go and subscribe to my Youtube channel. Let’s keep each other accountable!
All of a sudden 2020 got busy as hell for me. Things started off kind of crazy at the beginning of the year, then got really slow during quarantine, but it is ramping back up for me. Greece is officially open, so that means that I have been working full time again and doing my best to explore this island that I’m on. On top of that, I started my first class for my master’s degree. I’m currently attending Liberty University and I’m majoring in Masters of Business Administration. So far I am in the third week of the class, and I’m doing well, but I feel the stress. I also should be studying for the Project Management Professional certification, but I have yet to start doing that. I am doing that all while trying to maintain a relationship, a social life, and stay consistent on my Youtube channel. Other than that, life’s great! How are you doing post quarantine?
Starting a Youtube channel has been on my to do list since 2017. My goal was to start it while I was in Korea, and that would have been the perfect place to do so, but I kept making excuses. I always thought I needed better tools, or a better apartment. Even when I moved into the perfect apartment, I still didn’t make time for it. Now that I think of all of the amazing things I could have made a video about, I get kind of upset with myself. I had some pretty amazing experiences while in Korea, but I am sure that I will have even more amazing experiences while here in Greece. Whenever this worldwide shut down is over, I’ll be able to make even more content. For now, please checkout my current videos. I want my channel to be informational, inspirational, and entertaining. I want to be a big sister/auntie to the younger generation through my channel, but also inspire women my own age and older to go after their goals. Below is the link to my first video and I will have new uploads every Monday! Please, like, share, comment, and subscribe. Thanks for all the support!!