Have you ever been in a relationship where the person didn’t see your value? They treated you like you were some regular person and only showed you love when they felt like it? Well, I have. It sucked! For a while I was sticking it out because I saw the potential in that person, and hoped that they would see my value. I got into that relationship at a vulnerable point in my life. I had recently been divorced and felt lonely and did not really know if I wanted to be in a relationship in the first place. Throughout that relationship I felt like I was punishing myself for staying in it because of the wrong that I had done in my marriage. See, I am not perfect. My marriage ended mainly because of the choices that I made. So when I was being treated shitty in my new relationship, I just sucked it up as karma.
While I was telling my friends and family what was going on in this new relationship they reminded me of who I was and the value that I bring to any relationship. I was beating myself up because I hadn’t forgiven myself for the things that I did before, but they knew that the person I was in the past was not me. In my new relationship I was perfect. I did everything right, but it still wasn’t enough. It took me a couple months to realize that it was him, not me who had the issues. He was battling his own insecurities and took it out on me. It finally came down to him verbally disrespecting me when I called it quits. Four months of punishment was enough for me.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. That relationship taught me a lot about what I do not want in a relationship or a man. I was trying to be the perfect person for the person that was not for me. Of course after we got out of that relationship he realized what he lost. All of the rules he had in previous breakups didn’t apply to me. He still wanted to talk and be cool, which I thought was weird at first. Then I realized that I am a great catch, and he should should be feeling stupid. He probably lost the best thing that ever happened to him.
I said all of that to say this, never let anyone take you for granted. If someone doesn’t see your value that doesn’t mean you lose your worth. We are all learning as we grow in life, and our past doesn’t define us. If someone doesn’t see the greatness in you, then that is there loss. Remember a diamond is still a diamond even if no one is wearing it. You’re BeYOUtiful and life is meant to be lived abundantly, don’t ever forget it. 😉